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His composure felt like a betrayal. I began to view his silence as a lack of depth, and his lack of tears as a lack of love. Our family unraveled with a heartbreaking speed. Within a year, the “empty nest” we never asked for became two separate lives. Sam moved out without a fight, and not long after, I heard he had remarried.
The news of his new life acted as the final seal on my resentment. I convinced myself that Sam was a shallow man, someone who could simply replace a lost child and a discarded wife with a newer, less burdened model. For twelve years, I carried this bitterness like a shield. I visited our son’s grave every Sunday, meticulously tending to the grass and talking to the headstone, fueling my identity as the “only one” who truly remembered, the only one who truly cared. I lived in the past, while Sam, it seemed, had sprinted into a bright, unencumbered future.
At first, I felt a hollow, shameful sense of vindication. I expected to feel nothing, or perhaps just the quiet satisfaction of a grudge that no longer had an opponent. But a few days after the funeral—which I did not attend—Sam’s second wife, Claire, appeared at my door. She looked exhausted, her eyes swollen and mapped with red veins, holding a small wooden box bound with a simple leather cord.
“I think it’s time you understood,” she said, her voice barely a whisper. She handed me the box and left without another word.
I sat at my kitchen table, the same table where Sam and I used to help our son with his geometry homework, and I pulled the cord. Inside were hundreds of envelopes. They weren’t organized by date; they were stuffed in with a desperate, overflowing energy. Every single one was addressed to our son.
I opened the one on top. The handwriting was Sam’s—the familiar, slanted script that used to write out grocery lists and birthday cards.
“Hey, Kiddo,” it began. “I saw a boy today wearing a jersey just like yours. For a second, I forgot. I started to call your name across the parking lot. My lungs actually hurt when I had to pull the breath back in. Your mom is mad at me again. She thinks I don’t feel this. She doesn’t understand that if I let even an inch of this out, I will never be able to stop. I have to stay upright for her. If we both go down, who is left to hold the memory? I’m so sorry I’m not better at this.”
I felt the first sob catch in my throat, a physical lump that burned. I reached for another letter, dated three years later.
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